At this point I asked the guys how many of them are fathers-about 70% raise their hand. Now I spend a few minutes talking about what a proper father should look like. Having received our identity from Abba Father, it is the role of a father to shape us and mold into to that God given identity. In addition, he is to provide stability/security in the family, a safe place to learn and grow and finally to instill in his children a sense of value and worth. Children need affectionate touch from their fathers, a confirmation of his love for them, a nurturing of their gifts/talents and quality time spent with him. Without these crucial elements many children grow up believing that they are not lovable and without value which typically leads to a host of psychological issues. What did you receive from your father and how does it influence who you are and how you live your life? I end this section by reassuring them that despite their separation from their children, they still have an opportunity to be a positive influence in their lives.