The statistics show that the majority of prisoners (quite high) had an unhealthy, dysfunctional relationship with their fathers. Many of the men who struggle with identity issues (including sexual identity), anger, alcoholism, workaholism and pornography were abused in some fashion by their fathers. I give the men a general idea of what I mean when I say ‘abuse,’ which includes neglect and abandonment. It’s a powerful moment for many men, especially the ones who never considered the harsh, even brutal, treatment they received from their fathers as abuse. Having resentment and bitterness in your heart as a result of choosing not to forgive becomes a very dark and painful place, much like a prison cell. During this portion of the message there are always a few tears in the room.